Today's guest post is from Sarah Douglas at the Spiritual Child Network, one of my go-to websites for ideas and inspiration. Sarah writes this about herself: "I am a children's minister, working as a volunteer in a small Anglican village church. This involves me in co-leading All Age Worship and taking a group of children for Junior Church. I also lead a preschool service and lead Godly Play and a lunchtime club in a local school each week. I am especially interested in All Age Worship, working in schools and finding ways around the particular problems of small churches with few facilities. I am married with three children and work part-time as a teacher." Sarah's post chronicles the first year in the life of a baby in their congregation. Reading this made me smile so much and long to be a part of welcoming everyone, regardless of age and ability, to worship God. Unfortunately, many of my own church experiences have not been this welcoming to young children and especially babies. May Sarah and Penelope remind us that each and every person in the Body of Christ is important and has something to contribute.
A Year with Penelope
Penelope is the youngest of a family of
four, who come along regularly to our family services. Her brothers and sister are used to taking an active
part in our services, which take place in the round and have been influenced by
the principles and practices of Godly Play. This reflection started when I noticed how
absorbed three month old Penelope was in what was going on in our
services. It led me to
wonder: Who do we consider to be
part of the church? Is anyone too young to be part of the worshipping community?
4
weeks: Penelope’s first visit to church was
unremarkable – she slept throughout!
8
weeks: However her next visit to church was in a
starring role. It was Mothering
Sunday and we acted three scenes to show the story of Hannah. Penelope’s mother was Hannah and the
first scene showed her childless at the Temple at Shiloh being confronted by
the priest Eli. Our second scene
was after the birth of baby Samuel, where Hannah tells her husband that she
will not go to Shiloh again until she goes to take Samuel. Hannah walked down the aisle with
Penelope showing everyone the baby she thought she would never have. Penelope clearly loved the attention
she was getting and responded happily to everyone’s smiles of welcome.
Three
months: After Easter we were back to our ordinary
twice monthly family services which are very visual and interactive. Penelope was awake for these services;
she would sit on mum’s or dad’s knee and watch everything, completely absorbed
in what was going on. As she was
awake we offered her a shaker or bells during the hymns and Penelope’s five
year old sister made sure she joined in with the songs and music.
Eight
months: We had quite a long gap over the summer and
by the time we came back Penelope was crawling. No longer happy just to sit and watch she wanted to crawl
off. Because of the nature of our service everyone was happy for Penelope to
crawl around – when she started towards other areas of the church someone would
field her and bring her back. On
one occasion the worship leader fielded her and sat with Penelope on her knee
during the Bible reading.
Nine
months: When Penelope was given a shaker she didn’t
just shake it but rocked backwards and forwards to the music. During our time of confession the children
take symbols up to the altar (a tin of beans, a cup of water, a picture of
friendship). When the children
gathered round in readiness to take up the symbols, Penelope crawled over to
join them. I found myself saying,
“Sorry Penelope, you need to be able to walk.” But afterwards I thought – does she? Penelope thought she should join
in everything – loud moans when she was sat on her parent’s knee during the
creed – she wanted to go and look at the candles that were being lit by the
older children.
Twelve
months: We had another long gap at Christmas which was
taken up with the Christingle, the Nativity play and the Crib service. Penelope was a little over one when she
came back to family services. She
was still determined to join in – and to sit on the floor with the other
children rather than on her parents’ knee. She was now confident enough to join the others and play
with some of the toys in the children’s area while the adult talk was going on. The Godly Play stories fascinated her
and she would sit quietly on someone’s knee (providing this was at floor
level!) to watch.
But
is this worship? Worship for me involves coming
close to God and my own response to Him.
Sometimes I am on my own, perhaps walking along a beach, at others I am
in church, a member of the worshipping community.
We can never tell how close a person is to
God but it seems unlikely that the God we worship does not come close to small
wordless children simply because they cannot speak. In some ways words confuse our relationship with God, we may
always be so intent on explaining everything and defining our terms that we
limit him. Small children often
seem able to take a short cut and bypass words. They dance with ribbons to express their joy, watch
intensely as the candles are lit and hold out their hands for the bread.
It seems to me important that Penelope was
accepted as part of our worshipping community. This was symbolised for me on the occasion when the worship
leader picked her up and sat with her on her knee during the Bible reading. She
became “the child in the midst”. Penelope
belonged in the circle of worshippers, and everyone there simply accepted this. In particular her brothers and sister
clearly considered it important that from very early on Penelope should have
the same opportunities for joining in worship that they did and made sure she
was included in everything that was going on. Perhaps we took our lead from them?
Baby Penelope watched and responded to our
worship from a surprisingly young age.
She prompted me to start rethinking what we do when very young children
and babies are present.
Sarah Douglas
Thanks for this, Sarah. I like the idea of a rattle or bell during hymns, and think I would cope even with loud moans amidst a congregational response such as the creed. But I notice that you haven't said anything about noise (or silence?) during quieter parts of the service!
ReplyDeleteI *am* struck that not only is your congregation accepting of children, but Penelope's family is also accepting of the congregation's corporate care of their baby. I have been in situations where I'd have liked to pick up a straying child to say, "We stay in this part of the church right now", but was too frightened of what the parents' reaction might be.
Thanks, Sheila, for hosting this thought-provoking guest post!
Very good question, Storyteller, about the noise level and I'll be curious to hear Sarah's response. The times that I have tried a "Pray and Play" sort of thing in adult church have always been the most stressful for me due to the noise factor.
DeleteI think it's so wonderful that Sarah's congregation has learned to somehow worship "around" a little extra noise.
DeleteHi Sheila and Storyteller
DeleteI think some of this is because we hold our service in the round. Also when the children are in, they are involved - taking round stones for confession, lighting candles for the creed, dancing with ribbons during the hymns, writing prayer leaves. There is plenty for a baby to watch.
Having said that we do have about 20 minutes when the children go out - either for wondering and response or for the babies and little children to the Pray and Play toys in the nave. (The adults have an adult talk, reflection and intercessions.) This gives both groups a breathing space. We come back together for the creed, the prayer tree and the Lord's Prayer and the closing hymn.
We do have weeks when the children are completely hyper and the adults find it hard to cope. It feels tense. And yet the following week the same children will be peaceful, reverential and focussed... As we have no hall or rooms in the church we have had to get used to hearing each other - though it took time - at least a couple of years.
I think the trust that exists within the congregation is one of the advantages of worshipping in a small village church where people tend to know each other - though we do welcome visitors!
Thanks, Sarah, for coming back to reply. It's reassuring to know that sometimes it works better and sometimes not so well. I love reading about all the different ways that children can participate in your services!
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